update on mine, turns out the string that was not responding was a connection issue at the screw terminal, which is weird because when taybrynn mentioned to check it, I did and they all seemed fine. I was going to share a string so I ran the screws all the way in with no wire and tested on top of the screws and it was working so I redid the connection and it works. 3 total connectors bad, all mosfets are good.
I seem to have one of them working fine but I had to program one zues at rgb and one of them at gbr. if I left it rgb the colors didn't match up. zues 1 is set to universe 2, start channel 1696. zues 2 is universe 3, start channel 1. 1600 nodes, 4800 channels so I did 2400 at the end of one universe and 2400 at the start of universe 3. it matches up now in xlights so that's what matters.
I still have the flashing string on my other zues but with snow and frigid weather coming, I just shared two strings on one terminal(100 nodes) so I could get it running and work on some other stuff I had to do before the snow comes on Friday. had to finish the roof line. once I get everything going and some sequencing done, I will go back to the zues with the flashing string. people will never know that 2 of the strings are the same.