You cannot ask too many questions here, about the third time someone answer the same question someone might refer you to the last answer, but it's a FRIENDLY group of folks here and if they cannot collectively figure it, I don't know what you could have done to make that much of a mess of RJ's toys.
I had to order one of the adapter boards off Ebay an ISCP18A to program the pic on a SSR4 that will make my arrangement in the yard easier, but other than that everything has been with the standard pickit kit from j1sys off ebay.
Many of us are only a few months ahead of you, took the day off to go figure out where extension cords need to go and how many, blah blah. Glad I thought ahead and left myself a surprise in the outdoor lights box from last season..... a whole bunch of extension cords ....
Also when you get to buying the cat5 cables from monoprice, you will need more than 2 50' cables...