It would be great if FB had an auto prompt to force a message to attach for the group request. I felt bad that I sent a request and forgot that you wouldn't know who I was. My home page, is really not used must on FB and I certainly don't bring up holiday lighting as my own family would have no interest. Plus, my page is private. I'm sure many others might have the same issue. Wonder if there is a setting or anything that would help so you know who is who. Facebook is great, but it has some shortcomings in the privacy realm.